I asked him to sit down. Then I asked him to
“try” and get out of the chair. Of course you know he stood up.
We repeated the exercise. “Try” to stand
up. After several attempts at “trying” he finally realized that
you can’t try. You either do it or you don’t.
There are three words I never let students use around
me. “Try”, “Can’t” and Won’t”. We just
covered “Try”. When you say that you “can’t” do
something, you’re really telling me that you are unwilling. By saying
“won’t” means that you’re going to dig your heels in
and that you want to be right regardless of the outcome.
Think about it, how many times do you use those
words in your own speaking? Those three words are a setup to failure. You
actually set yourself up to fail before you even begin when you use those
words. You’re actually pre-programming yourself to fail.
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